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You cannot make—nor can you convince—someone to love you. Any attempt to do so is manipulative.
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You don’t have to accept the idea of what you once believed to be love.
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Healing is important. Your trauma will distort your perception.
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You’re going to wish that you had cherished your previous relationships more than you did. You’re going to wish that you had treated your previous partners better than you did. Apologizing isn’t always appropriate. Sometimes your apology is to leave them alone.
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If you aren’t promoted and you know that you’ve earned a promotion, it’s because they don’t want to promote you or because they don’t have the option to promote you.
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Your loneliness and fear will drive you to your deepest regrets. Learn how to be self-sufficient.
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Abandoning yourself for someone will never make you the “bigger” person—it’s only stripping you of your boundaries.
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Question everything.
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Document everything.
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Closure isn’t real and they’re probably only saying sorry because they feel guilty.
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Just because you’re falling in love doesn’t mean that he’s falling in love.
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You’re allowed to want the type of love that you dream about. You’re allowed to expect the type of love that you dream about.
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If you’re desperate for connection, any attention will convince you that it’s love.
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What are facts? What are fears? One is truth. One is your uncertainty.
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